Even though we know how important these checkups are for our long-term health, just the idea of undressing in a cold room under fluorescent lights can be enough to make us postpone… again.
But that 20-minute appointment? It can literally save your life.
To help ease the discomfort and make your visit smoother, here are 10 things your gynecologist wishes you knew (and probably didn’t tell you last time).
1. Your doctor doesn’t care what you look like — they care about your health
You might feel awkward lying back in a gown with your feet in stirrups, but remember this: your gynecologist sees dozens of women every week. They’re not looking at your shaved legs, your nail polish, or anything else you’re stressing over.
Their focus is your health — not your appearance. Remind yourself of that when you start to feel self-conscious.
2. Hygiene matters, but don’t overdo it
Yes, showering before your appointment is a good idea. It’ll make you feel more confident, and it’s respectful to your doctor.
But don’t go overboard. Avoid douching or using any scented products down there. Those can actually throw off your body’s natural balance and make things worse.
Warm water is more than enough.
3. Don’t hide your symptoms
If something feels off — itching, discomfort, discharge — speak up. Your doctor can’t help you if you stay silent.
You might feel embarrassed, but they’ve heard it all. Seriously. What you think is “weird” is probably something they’ve treated a hundred times before.
4. Skip the sex (for at least 24 hours)
Having sex before your appointment can irritate the skin and potentially affect test results.
To ensure the most accurate screening — especially for pap smears or STD tests — try to avoid sex, lubricants, or anything internal the day before.
5. Don’t rely on Google — talk to your doctor
We get it. When something feels off, it’s tempting to spend hours online diagnosing yourself.
But too much Googling can cause unnecessary panic — and misinformation. Let your gynecologist guide the conversation. That’s what they’re trained for.
6. Write down your questions in advance
You’d be surprised how many women forget to ask the things they came in for.
If you’ve been wondering about birth control options, period pain, discharge, or anything else — jot your questions down before your appointment. It’s normal to get flustered or nervous. A quick list can help you feel more in control.
7. The exam chair isn’t as scary as it looks
We know — it looks like a medieval torture device. But it’s just a tool to help your doctor do their job.
Try to relax and slide forward when asked. It helps your doctor get a better look and makes the whole process quicker and more comfortable.
8. You don’t always need a pelvic exam at your first visit
If you’re young or it’s your first-ever appointment, you may not need a full pelvic exam.
You can start with a simple consultation — talking about periods, birth control, or questions you have. If you feel anxious, consider bringing a friend or family member for support.
9. Forgotten tampons happen — don’t panic
It’s more common than you think: someone forgets a tampon for a few days and comes in worried about a smell or irritation.
Good news? It’s an easy fix. Just let your doctor know — they won’t judge you.
10. Your gynecologist isn’t here to shame or embarrass you
Their job is to protect your health — not to critique your grooming habits, weight, relationship status, or anything else.
You deserve care and respect in that room. If your doctor doesn’t make you feel safe or listened to, it’s perfectly okay to find another one.